So, you’re thinking of having a kid free wedding. What is the proper way to let your guests know this? Is it appropriate to ask this of your guests? This hot topic debate is not going to please everyone you invite however it is still ultimately the bride and groom’s decision. It is their day after all.
How to let your guests know
There are a few different ways to inform your guests that you wish to have no children at your wedding. You can subtlety let them know that this is your desire by only including the invited guests’ names on the invitation and RSVP card, but this runs the risk of them assuming it includes the whole family.
You can get straight to the point and make it very clear on your invitation with a simple direct statement like ‘Please respect our wishes for a child free wedding.’ There is no missing this point but beware that some guests may find this rude.
You can make the day where kids are only invited to the ceremony but the reception is an adult only event. This way the guests with children will get the best of both. They will have their children during the day but get to enjoy an adult only evening out for the reception. This is a great option and you can make this sound very appealing to your guests. Let them know that this decision will allow them to enjoy an evening full of adult interaction and conversation.
Having a child free wedding is ultimately going to ruffle some feathers. We strongly suggest you consider a few things before making this decision. If you have a lot of guests who have to travel some distance to get to your wedding, this may not be the best option. They will either have to bring a babysitter or leave their children at home with someone. This runs the risk of them declining all together.
Having a flower girl or ring bearer who are allowed to attend the wedding and reception as well may not sit well with the guests you asked not to bring their children. If you are considering this, maybe make it so the flower girl and ring bearer have to be gone at a certain time in the evening. This way the guests who did not bring their children will still get the ‘adults only’ time that was promised to them.
Having a child free wedding is ultimately the bride and grooms’ decision. You are going to get feedback on this so be prepared. If this is your desire don’t feel the need to cave because some is throwing a hissy fit about it. You never know, the guests who so adamantly fought this idea might be the ones who enjoy the evening the most.
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