Wedding planning is busy and stressful so making sure you have the right support system is key. Here’s five top tips that will walk you through picking the perfect bridesmaids.
Narrow Down All Your Choices
If you have read any of my other wedding planning posts, you may see that I am a huge list maker. So it is not surprising that my first suggestion would be to sit down and brainstorm a list. Start with immediate family members that you would want part of your day. Once you have your list of immediate family move on to your friends list. Your friends list may include friends from elementary or high school, co-workers, future sister in laws or maybe even cousins.
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Choose Your Maid Of Honor/Man Of Honor
You have finished your list of who you are considering for your bridal party. Now it is time to pick who will be your Maid of Honor or Man of Honor. To help you decide who is the right person to stand up for you on one of the most important days of your life, consider who will be the most helpful in all wedding planning decisions. Your MOH should be the first person to have your back and be willing to help at all times. Another thing to consider is, who is a great problem solver and can stay calm under pressure. Someone with all these traits will definitely be an asset to your planning process. Think about it like this, if you or your fiance couldn’t be there for an important decision who would you leave in charge to make it for you?
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Set Realistic Expectations For Your Bridesmaids
This is an important tip when deciding who to pick. If you are a bride who needs all bridesmaids to be a part of all roles and planning of the wedding, I have a few things for you to consider. First off I wouldn’t suggest picking a bridesmaid that doesn’t live near you. The chances of a bridesmaid who lives far away making it to all wedding related meetings or activities will be hard. Another tip is even if they live near you consider their schedules. If someone always has a hectic schedule it may make it difficult to have them available when you need.
Another important part to consider is your bridesmaids budget. If you are planning on picking high end bridesmaid dresses or plan on having a fun and lavish bachelorette party in Las Vegas, you can’t expect everyone to be able to afford everything. Be open and honest about what you are planning and expecting that way you won’t be disappointed when someone can’t join along.
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Don’t Include Someone Just Because They Included You
This is your day and you should have the people that mean and will be there the most for you. Everyone’s bridal party is going to be structured a completely different way. It is nice if it works out that you can include everyone that included you but sometimes it’s not possible and that is okay. For example you may only want a bridal party of three and you have three sisters that you are extremely close with. So, you won’t be including your best friend who made you her Maid of Honor. But if she really is a great friend she will understand and there are always other ways she can be a part of your wedding day.
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Sit On Your Bridal Party List & Think Twice Before Asking
You’ve come up with your bridal party list and you’re ready to ask your ladies right away, don’t quite yet. It may be super tempting but just sit on it for a couple of weeks. Make sure you feel confident in the ladies you will be asking, you don’t want to regret asking someone. Just remember once you’ve asked someone it’s really hard to go back.
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